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Being ‘In’-Dependent

We all want freedom and independence but is it only about having our own house, our own room, our own money and our own decisions. We all seek political, financial, physical and social freedom, but after having it all, are we truly independent? Let us explore our emotional freedom today. To experience independence, a good starting point is to identify our dependencies. If there is anything for which we say ‘I cannot do without’ or a person for whom we say ‘I cannot live without’ or a sanskar for which we say ‘It’s not in my control’, then we are emotionally dependent.

Our basic list of dependencies would include – Mobile, Internet, Social Media, Television, Coffee, Alcohol, Smoking, Particular types of Food, Shopping etc.

A little more checking will reveal our deeper attachments and dependencies –

  1. People and Situations should be my way
  2. People’s Approval and Appreciation
  3. My opinion is right and yours is wrong

… we can complete the list with all those things for which our mind gets disturbed.


Let’s ask our self do we get hurt or angry always? The answer will be Depends on the person who made the mistake … Depends on what they did … Depends on how they behaved. We believe that our emotions are dependent on who they are and what they did. The truth is it Depends on our state of mind and the response we create irrespective of who they are and what they did. We are enslaved by our own belief systems and it is time to free our self and awaken to a new way of thinking and living.

In-Dependence means to be dependent only on our inner qualities and powers to respond to any behaviour or situation. In-Dependence means we have the power to give blessings to those who betrayed us; we can share and care for those who rejected us; we can co-operate with those who are jealous of us; we can be calm and soft with those who are shouting at us. Let’s create a new belief system – People and situations have no connection to my response. I have the choice and the power to create the right feeling and behaviour each time and for each one. I am In-Dependent.

Visualize waking up tomorrow morning, absolutely contented. Satisfied with everything – God, our life, family, food, home, job, friends, money, comforts, city. Accepting myself, people, situations, traffic, pollution, weather, as they are. Admiring the beauty and uniqueness in every speck of creation. Savoring morning cup of tea, discharging duties with a smile, enjoying every interaction, sending a blessing to everyone, relishing food, focusing only on the good, welcoming surprises, remaining hopeful even in a hopeless situation – simply living it up with faith and love. How different will my tomorrow be from my today? My quality of life will rise a few notches because I choose to change my tomorrow, and it starts with one thought – of contentment for everything I have. My thought triggers a pleasant feeling, an attitude of gratitude, right actions and soothing behavior. So I send positive energy to my body, to people and the universe, influencing all three – so my health improves, relationships become harmonious, and I contribute to world peace. If I repeat this the next day and the next, what started as “Changes in Me, Will Change My World”. Also, I am always one thought away from changing my world.

My world is not somewhere out there. It starts from within me, from my thoughts. I the being, constantly radiate my energy into the world. So if I emerge the divinity within, the world changes. If I heal someone with my love, the world changes. If I stand up for morals, the world changes. If I reconcile with my past, the world changes. When I go step out into the outer world in this state, my every action will reflect the flavor of my inner world. As angels, we are agents of change. Let us influence our family, country, and the entire humanity, one day at a time by transforming ourselves. Let our collective energy of goodness envelop the planet to bring a change and create a beautiful world full of positivity.